I’ve always considered myself a positive person. Not always an easy thing to do, because even the happiest people can have their blue days. But I try to make an effort when things seem difficult to spin things into a positive light.
“The printer is down, so you won’t get the brochures the day you asked.” – As long as we make our deadline.
“We’ve been asked by these partners to help with this press conference.” – At least we’ll get extra media exposure.
“It’s raining!” – The plants needed it.
That said, I’ve been noticing that I’ve been indulging in a bit of negative trash talk. You know the kind, when someone close to you asks how you’re doing and suddenly you find yourself spilling out details of things that have been bothering you. Sometimes you really just need to get things off your chest, lest they fester and become mountains out of molehills.
But is that really the way to go? I’ve been on the receiving end of this kind of venting. You want to be the sympathetic ear and help your friend / colleague / random stranger, but is there a point when you over-share?
I’ve been increasingly aware that I’ve been doing this. Someone I know asks how I’m doing, and I accidentally over-share all the things bothering me, just to get them off my chest. It’s not always the most appropriate way to go. After the conversation, I feel bad because now not only have I 1- made the situation I’ve been venting about seem terrible but, 2- also come off as somebody who has nothing better to do than complain.
There’s definitely a right time to share and a wrong time to share. Does my boss’ boss / acquaintance / Facebookland need to know that I’m having issues with a person / place / thing in my personal life, when I could easily discuss that with my fiancé / best friend / boss, whom I’m close to?
I’m not saying I need to paint my life as a Pinterest-perfect place, but I think I might need to rethink the overshare. It’s an interesting (odd?) condundrum for me, since my generally quiet nature often leads to me not opening up enough. I need to find a good balance. And not complain quite so much.